But what to do when you actually find someone you want to meet in person? Though it may not always come naturally, caution should prevail. Internet dating has caught a bad rap as being a haven for schemers and deceivers - unfairly so, some would say. You need to be careful wherever you meet people, not just online. Anonymous email is the rule for almost all services, so you're covered there. As for phone numbers, for her own security, a woman would do well to get the man to give his number first so she can call at her convenience. Any man who can't understand the issue at hand and refuses such a request is a red flag and should be avoided.
  As your relationship progresses, there will come a time when you decide to meet in person. As much as you think you know this person from your telephone or e-mail conversations, do not assume as much. As the old adage goes: better safe than sorry. Furthermore, you'll need to set down some rules beforehand to avoid any problems or misunderstandings. Resist the temptation to stay with your online friend or to offer your residence up to them. If the visit doesn't go as well as planned, the last thing you want is an angry guest in your house. You may also want to consider not initially giving out your home address.
  Also, make clear who will pay for what. Don't give your guest the impression they'll be wined and dined, and insist all expenses be shared. Hold fast on this one and don't budge regardless of how much they may cry poverty. And do not lend any money - period.
  Again, in the interest of security, it's good practice to have your first meeting during the day and in a public place, rather than at night and at someone's house. Arrange to meet the person at your destination and have your own transportation afterward. If you're on your home turf, have an itinerary and let a friend know where you'll be at what time. Plan to make a check-in call sometime during the evening.
  Meeting someone online can be a rewarding, enjoyable experience. You can easily protect yourself by doing a little homework, using a well-respected service and maintaining a level-headed, methodical approach. Not the most natural stance to take when chasing romance, but it could very well save you money, if not heartache, in the long run.